Today's topic is...
Relationships & Money
We all know the real-life Marilyn Monroe didn't care about marrying a millioinaire.
She was too busy reading books and being frugal!
Over dinner today, I asked my Frugal Companion (read about why I call him that here) if he had any thoughts on this issue. "No," he said, and paid for my dinner like he always does, and we went off to our separate homes. In that simple exchange, I sourced out two issues I can talk about.
1) Who should pay for stuff in a relationship? The person with more money, the person with less debt, the person with more expensive taste, or a wealthy benefactor who pays for both of you at the same time?
2) Since when is living together in a relationship a mandatory part of the whole process? My companion and I are completely fine and comfortable and happy living separately. I can see that living together would save some money, but on the other hand, isn't the peace and quiet and allowance for me to be obscenely messy worth the trade-off? I don't know.
|Of course, my apartment is messy in a je ne sais quoi, bohemian/funky/swingin' 60s manner |
similar to that of Audrey Hepburn's apartment in Breakfast at Tiffany's. Not at all in a creepy, messy, Hoarders sort of way.
OBVIOUSLY. *cough, cough*
I also decided that I will never combine my finances with his, mainly because I have this undeniable, unpreventable, inevitable need to spend all of the money I have access to. If I had access to someone else's money? No matter how I explained it to myself beforehand, when I saw that amount in my bank acocunt, I'd be like, "Heyyy, look how much money I have!" And it's not like I'd run out and buy like, a pony, but it would all sloooowly be spent on a few extra things at the grocery store, a few extra things at Sephora... until suddenly I have bankrupted us both and where would that leave us?
I guess the main thing I have to say about relationships and money is that, if you're a shopaholic like me? Then it's best to be in a relationship with a Frugal Companion. Otherwise, things would just get messy.
Do you guys have Frugal Companions, or are you the responsible one in your Relationship?